“Hi Katherine, thank you very much to introduce me to Lucy. She is famine and gentle. I love her a lot. I taste both bitter and sweet of a cross-cultural relationship. I feel something is lacking in our relationships. I am not able to penetrate my lady fully, nor is my Asian lady fully opening to me.”
Helplessly in Love,
“Dear Rob, glad to hear from you. Men and women are at an emotional stalemate.
Asian women aren’t opening because their men aren’t giving them what they need.
Fortunately, you can learn the right tools to be able to more fully penetrate your Asian woman. You can give your partner what she needs, allowing her to feel seen so that she will open again.
Take the time to read through these needs. Let them sink in. Understanding what you can do to help your partner fully open will not only improve your relationship, but it will improve your entire life.
Here are the five things that Asian women want in a relationship.
1.To Feel Loved
When Asian women feel loved, they relax and open to you. The arguments dissipate, the sex is abundant, and their nurturing feminine energy flows throughout your lives.
Not feeling loved is the subtext of every argument that you and your partner have.
If she is unhappy that you are going out with your friends and ignoring her, or she’s upset about her day at work, or she is only responding to you with brief snippets of sentences, then the cause is most likely her not feeling loved enough.
Learn to see through her words, actions, and moods and see what the real root of it is.
2. To Feel Seen
Asian women want to feel seen.
She wants to feel you hearing her and being aware of her emotional state.
She doesn’t necessarily want you to be affected by her emotional state, but she does want you to be witness to it.
If she is sitting across the room from you and you aren’t picking up on the fact that she is suffering emotionally and on the verge of tears, she will begin to trust you less. She will think, “If he can’t see that I am hurting now, how long will it take him to figure it out? Will I be suffering for days or weeks before he is aware of it or cares enough to help me through this? I guess I have to rely on myself for my own emotional support.”
Life can seem extremely lonely, even within a relationship. You have to constantly show your partner that at least one person will be witness to her and her journey through life. And that person is you.
3. To Feel Sexually Desired
What’s a major difference between your relationship to your partner and your relationship to everyone else in your life? You have sex with your partner.
Asian women need to feel sexually desired. They want to make sure that you see and appreciate them as a feminine, sexual being.
Praise her body. Feel her and grab her appreciatively. Remind her that you see her as a sexual being and you will both benefit.
4. To Be Appreciated
The feminine in all people responds primarily to praise and appreciation.
Remind your Asian lady that you love her. Tell her that you appreciate what she brings to your life. Show her how much she means to you.
The fastest way to run your relationship into the ground is by ignoring your partner and taking her for granted. Appreciation is the opposite of those things. Appreciation is the embodying this mindset: “I am aware of what you bring to my life, and I want you to be sure that I am aware of it as well.”
So tell your Asian lady what you appreciate, and tell her often.
5. Most importantly, to Feel Like She Can Count On You
Life gets pretty messy sometimes.
When life’s unavoidable difficulties arise, do you fall apart under pressure or are you able to bend and not break?
Asian women want to know that you can handle yourself when life happens. They want to know that you won’t run and hide when they get a bit ‘too emotional’ for your liking. They want to know that they can count on you.
Understanding Asian culture and customs is important. Most Asian women like their men to be the leader in family life and to be reliable, responsible and supportive.
Do what you say you will do, be who you say you are, and be consistent in your actions.”
Your Matchmaker & Love Mentor,